The dilemma
It has been four years since I left India, almost exactly the same time that I last wrote on my blog. Oh boy, its just so good to be back here. Just going through my last IIM-A posts still gives me goosebumps! I still didnt finish the pending last post on the convocation…it will come hopefully soon, few years late :)
And as I return from yet another trip to the homeland, one of the numerous I have taken in these past years, I reckon it is a good time to reflect. Though I must admit, waking up at 4 am to take this flight, after having covered 3 cities in 5 days, and sitting next to wailing kids as always – my powers to reckon intelligently will somehow take a beating. But sometimes it's better to listen to the heart than go by logic, which was ample clear when I saw the sheer joy on my mom's face in Lucknow, a trip born less out of practical feasibility and more of pure emotions.
India has changed a lot since my days in Ahmedabad, and with every visit, the change becomes more evident. For good or for worse, is something I am yet to figure out. I read the Indian newspapers online everyday before I even touch the Singaporean ones, and still every trip back home makes me realize I am out of sync with the realities of everyday living in the country. So when I am told that a multiplex movie now costs more than 200 bucks and that a decent meal for two is in excess of 500, I am unsure if I shoud treat this as a sign of failing governance or of India waking up to a globalized world where purchasing power is rising as quickly as the population.
Some things have not changed though – and rather unfortunately. The other day I saw a well suited man speaking in crisp English to his smartly dressed wife at Hazratgunj in Lucknow throw the large sheet of paper on the pavement next to a new garden after his bhelpuri was finished. I felt like quietly picking it up in front of him and putitng it in the bin which was located quite close – that I didn't do it is probably my only regret from this trip. But then civic sense has not always been our education system's strength – physics and math are far more important to become a successful human in India. Or for that matter – when my dad told me that he had to unwillingly pay 'extra' for the first time in his life to get a electricity meter installed in his newly built house post retirement, I asked him what happened to his principles. I could see his tone reeking of regret, and in a slighly choked voice he said he would have to wait for at least 2 months and run from pillar to post to get the job done otherwise. Why should a 66 year old retired air force officer be tortured like this for a basic amenity if he refuses to warm the pockets of the babus, is one of the questions I am taking back with me on this flight. There were many more incidents that saddened and angered me at the same time – people jumping queues everywhere, politeness being a forgotten word in the dictionary of India Shining, the importance of 'I only, let others in the socitety go to hell' - and I wonder if all this is a natural by-product of a developing nation whose middle class has suddenly woken up to the alluring prospects of a new lucrative life.
All is not lost surely – the fact that I still get a lump in my throat everytime I depart the country's shores can vouch for that. When I saw the kids on my flight to Lucknow who would probably have never seen the inside of an AC compartment in our trains, gallop around excitingly in their slippers discovering the wonders of a modern day jet – and often annoying the otherwise sophisticated fellow frequent flyers – I smiled quietly to myself. This was a sign of changing times, a change for the good of society. Or when I met the young maid in our new house in Lucknow who smiled and chatted with me as if she has been with us since ages, enquiring about my well being and asking me to bring her bhabhi the next time I come home – I was left wondering that despite her poor living conditions, she is facing the world with a charming smile and envious energy, and may just be more happy in her own little world than some of us who appear to have everything except peace of heart and mind.
And so I am not surprised when I and my better half debate nearly everyday whether we should shift back to India or not. And I know that when I reach home a few hours later, this is once again going to be the first topic of discussion. Now, I consider myself being gifted with a fairly decent amount of intelligence. And so I know when my friends tell me that Singapore is ages ahead of India when it comes to safety, security, professionalism, cleanliness, greenery, health, education, public transport, and the list is endless, that they are absolutely spot on. No logic can challenge that. And on top of that, its proximity to India unlike US/Europe ensures that I can easily visit my family almost anytime that I want. After all, if I shift to Mumbai/B'lore, my frequency of home visits may almost be the same. I know they are right, and I know I owe myself, my wife and my future kids a good and convenient life.
Then why is it that I even think of going back to India? What is it exactly about my roots or my homeland that I actually miss? Is it the feeling that I am running away from the system than trying my bit to change it, or that I owe my family and my society something back? And there I struggle again, unsure of the answer. I dont know if and when I will convince myself to return – IIM grads are taught to think rationally and practically – but then there was no course on campus that taught me that sometimes, your heart may win the battle against your mind – and it may just be the right direction that you were missing in your life.
Till then…bon voyage!
